Friday, November 22, 2013

Like Minded People

...Birth of Great Ideas

When you get to have a conversation with people who understand you it is nice that you do not have to explain yourself over and over again. When you find like-minded people it is so refreshing.
For those of you who do not know I am a social worker by trade and by blessing. I was blessed to stumble into the profession and find my purpose in my work. Basically I found my niche. I love helping people, especially children. But to do this it truly takes a village.
So when I first started in the field I made it my business to forge as many meaningful relationships and connections as I could. And that practice has served me well. (Thanks Daddy for that lesson early in life). I can honestly pick up the phone and contact someone to help those in need. It is a good feeling to help.
Today I had a conversation with a clinician friend and another friend from the Department of Juvenile Justice about the state of our youth. I now work as a liaison with the court system and have been promoted to Program Administrator. In the New Year I am looking to start programs and make sure that the children and their families in this county have what they need to succeed. That is if they want it.
We brainstormed on how we could positively affect outcomes for families and children if we got into the homes to help not dictate. Most families in crisis do not want to be told what they are doing wrong. However they are open to changing the things that do not work. See how I did that? I just said the same things, two different ways and one of them was not condescending or hurtful. It’s all about how you approach and interact with these families. You have to meet them where they are not where you want them to be.
So today a simple conversation with likeminded people gave birth to numerous ideas about how things can be done to make sure that those who want the help can access the help.
So here we go…. I will keep you posted on how this all places out…
Gooday Blogville

Thursday, November 21, 2013

I Want 2 B a Mom!

 Today I received paperwork from an Adoption agency.

Yes, I inquired about the possibility of me being an adoptive parent. I would love to be a mother, in the true sense of the word.
I have been blessed to have stepped into the role for those whose children were placed in foster care. I remain connected to my kids but it’s not the same as nurturing a child that you call your own. Someone I can love, someone that loves me back, someone whose personality I have a hand in molding, someone God has seen fit to allow me to share space and time with.
Right now you are asking why I have not had kids of my own, or maybe you are assuming that I cannot have children. Well first off you all need to stop make and ass of out of you...not me. But if you must know, yes I am able to have children. I have had all the tests and the doctors said it would be harder but I can still bare children. So why do I not have children, I guess the best answer is that God has not seen fit to allow me to get pregnant. I could say it wasn’t me and it was my ex’s issue but there is no reason to speculate. or speak about old relationships and his lack or...oh I'm sorry I got lost in that thought. So I am going to say, maybe God just didn’t think it would be right to bring a child into a relationship that He knew wasn’t going to work. But I digress.
I never saw my life without children. My parents would love to grandparents, my sister would love to be an aunt, my grandmother would love to see a great-grandchild and I would love to continue my family name. But it hasn’t happened yet.  Now in my mid 30’s, I am looking for that fulfillment and that connection with a child. I want to share the Love that God has placed in me. Because of my profession I am aware that there are a lot of children out there that are in need of a great family. Though it is just me I can truly love a child for two people.
So I have a telephone interview with the agency in January. Got some things to work on between now and then and then I will be on track to make something happen. Make something great happen in my life and in the life of the child that God is looking to bless me with.
I have been praying that the Lord blesses me with a child and also with a great guy to round out my family.  I have all the faith in the world that God will show up and show out. He said, “Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:  For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened” Matthew 7:7.
Just like anyone else who wants a child, I am terrified to be a parent; especially in this day and time. But I am giving it to God because He has the power to make things happen in my life. So I am giving it all to GOD!
I’ll keep you posted and I ask you to keep me in your prayers.
Peace Blogville