Today I went to out for a drink…well really for some good
music. I put on some tight black pants, a form fitting sweater and some black
boots and went out to enjoy some time by myself.
I sat down and the bartender came to give me a hug. Before
you ask, the bartender is my friend Chris. So after I get a nice Martini I take
a sit at my table. I wouldn’t call myself a regular but I know a few people in
the space.
I get a few looks as I make my way to my seat and it is
always nice to know that you are still attractive to the male gender. The band
started playing a nice jazz melody and I take it all in.
Chris bring me a drink and said, “hey there is a dude at the
bar who wanted you to have this”. Chris brought me an Amaretto Sour, my
favorite. Few people know about my preference so whoever sent the drink had to
know me. Chris said the guy said he knew me but hadn’t seen me in years. Just
so you know... I know a lot of people. But call only a few of them friend. And
I don’t break bread with people I do not like or consider friends. So whoever
this was had to know me well. I told Chris to tell him thank you and I
continued to enjoy the music.
About ten minutes passed and a man approached my table. When
I looked up I felt a wave of anger roll over me.
For you to understand this I would have to give you a little
background. About 22 years ago I met this guy through my brother named *Alex.
Well Alex and I became very close. I mean we hung out everyday, talked books,
music, and future plans. We went to college and lost touch. Then reunited when
he dropped out of school and came home. I used to come home from college and
hangout with him at his apartment. We had a strange yet very strong connection
that could have been seen as an attraction. We had one thing that we never did.
We never left each other without giving the other a hug. It was our thing.
So one weekend I came home and stopped by the apartment and
a girl answered the door. I asked if Alex was there and he came out of the
room. When he saw me he looked surprised and his gaze shot to the floor. The
girl who answered the door said, “Baby you have a visitor”. He asked me in and
introduced me to his girlfriend *Michelle. I sat on the couch thinking, “I
can’t be mad, we were never dating, we are just friends”. After about 30
minutes of Michelle marking her territory with every statement. I told Michelle
it was nice to meet her and I exited stage left. He followed me out to the car
and spun me around and said, “I am so sorry”. My reply was a simple, “be
happy”. I got in my car and drove to my parents house. It was the first time in
all the time we had known each other that we had left each other without giving
the other a hug.
I didn’t speak or hear from Alex again for almost 9 years
when he and his daughter showed up at my brothers house. He entered the house
and walked to me and gave me a hug just like no time had passed. It was a nice
feeling. We exchanged numbers and promised to keep in touch. And we did,
sporadically.
Fast forward 5 years later. Alex is married and I am
engaged. Neither of us is happy and Facebook makes it easy for us to connect
daily. So we start talking about any and everything; just like we had done in
the earlier years. He told about his marriage and how it was something he never
should have done and I told him that my fiancee was not going to marry me yet I
was staying like a fool (that is a story for another blog). Then he said three
things that changed everything…. (1) he was moving back to town and (2) he was
in love with me, had always been and wanted to see where it could go when he
came home, oh yeah (3) he was getting a divorce. Oh yeah...just to let you know my fiancee and I were just roommates by this point!
So fast forward a year and a lot of conversations via
Facebook and phone where he professes his love for me, tells me that he was
always attracted to me but never knew how to approach the subject or if he
wanted to risk our connection and friendship. This all lead up to the day he
walked into my brother’s apartment, past everyone, straight to my arms and
plants a long sweet kiss on me.
Usually this would be the part where I tell you that we had
a great night that lead to us failing deeper in love and living happily ever
after…..NOT!!!! I could tell you that but I would be lying. What actually
happened was that after that night I helped him move, helped him get his
divorce finalized and help him get joint custody of his daughter than one day
he said, “I’ll call you on Sunday so we can go to dinner”….. I hadn’t heard
from him since, until this moment. It had been about three years since that
statement and now he stood before me….with a wedding ring on his finger.
REALLY?????
“Can I sit down”, he asked. “Why?”, I responded.
“I just want to talk to you”, he stated. “Why?”, I responded
again.
“I want to apologize”, he replied, “Why?”, I responded one
more time.
He sat.
He dropped his head and explained that he was a coward and
was ashamed of how he used me as a rebound to get through what was going on
with he and Michelle. He explained, “I have always been attracted to you and
wanted to come home to that comfort and how you always took care of me. But
when I got here and finally got the divorce I just wanted to be unattached and
I didn’t know how to tell you that without feeling like I had led you on, so I
just didn’t say anything”. I sat sipping on the drink he had sent me lamenting
on what I was going to say when he was finished and thinking at the same time,
“damn this man is sexy”. He went on for fifteen minutes about how he was now
married to a great woman and that he missed me as a friend. After he finished
his spill he asked if I had any questions or wanted to say anything. I
responded by saying, “be happy” and turned to be continue to listen to the
music.
He asked me to look at him and he continued, “I just want us
to be friends and I know that it might take some time for you to forgive me but
I am willing to wait”. I finished my drink and looked him in those beautiful
light brown eyes and said, “We are not friends. Friends don’t do to each other
what you did to me. I was apparently disposable in your life and that is okay.
I pray that you are happy and that everything continues to fall into place. But
all I can wish you is happiness and a great life; but I will not be a part of
it. You saw to that”. I then got up to walk away. He got up and grabbed my arm
and said, “I am so sorry”. I looked at him and said, “Yes you are, have a good
life”. I broke the hold and walked toward to bar.
When I got to the bar I asked
Chris, “is he gone?” Chris confirmed that he was. I told Chris the story of who
Alex was to me. His response was, “oh now you want to speak? I think not”. My
sentiments exactly Chris.
Funny how life works out sometimes. But you can only play the fool for so long before you just let those who keep you in that space, go. Alex and I have some serious history and I will cherish the moments we have that are ours and ours alone. But that is where it ends.
Funny how life works out sometimes. But you can only play the fool for so long before you just let those who keep you in that space, go. Alex and I have some serious history and I will cherish the moments we have that are ours and ours alone. But that is where it ends.
The music fade out as I walked to my car, Sentimental Mood,
plays….how apropos…one of our favorite song.
THE ALEX CHAPTER IS OFFICIALLY CLOSED!
*Name was changed
