No Pain, No Gain

We are not meant to be alone. I don’t care what people say! We all need someone. We struggle with relationships because we are dealing with people. We all have our baggage and that presents in different ways.

There are those who do not trust easily based on the previous experiences. We all are the product of our experiences and all of our experiences are different. So why is there this belief that people should act a certain way and why is there such a thing as normal.

We all search for validation and when we do not get it we are hurt and feel lost. But No Pain, No Gain…right? We have to go through lose to understand when we find happiness. We have to kiss a few toads to fully appreciate prince charming. 

They say that life is what we make it but that doesn’t mean we have to settle for just anything or anyone. I can say that I have loved and lost. What I have realized is that when I love someone they don’t love me. But when I am gone they seem to realize that I was a woman worth their time…but it’s too late. Our time has passed. But the one truism in life is that something that is meant to be….will be.

I am giving it to God and praying that the man he has for me is ready and waiting on me like I am waiting on him. And that are paths are about to cross soon. God knows my heart and He knows my desires. So from here on out…it in his hands…

I Got A New Attitude By Miss More Roses

Billions of Dollars are spent each year in the Beauty Industry by Women Of Color. Hair products, nail products, weave, color, salon every two weeks, every week. Religiously. Some women go to the Salon more often than they go to church or to the gym. UT OH...Miss More Roses is in trouble now. LOL.

The focus is on External Beauty while the inner woman is torn up from the floor up.

Your ATTITUDE is what needs a PERM, not your hair ! A PERMANENT change ! It needs to be straightened from the ROOT. We spend all of this time and money on clothes and shoes and stuff and ugliness comes out every time we open our mouth. Shoe game tight, but your steps are not ordered. You leave out of your house everyday looking good on the outside, while bitterness and frustration fester on the inside. Ready to pounce on anybody that looks at you wrong, talks to you wrong. Ugly. When things don' go your way....you can’t slip into the comfort of Flexibility. Rigid and uptight...as if somebody squeezed you into a girdle that is five sizes two small...you LOOK the part, but you FEEL miserable.

Be beautiful. Spritz on some JOY in the morning. Slide your feet into the gospel of PEACE and walk in your blessings. Negativity BLOCKS Blessings !! You will NOT get to your destiny because your hair and your nails look good ! You will get there because you treat people right. The person that God SENT to bless you...you cussed them out and cut them off. Ugly.

As you go through this day, look in the mirror and ask yourself, is my Spirit on right ? Is my heart straight....towards others and do people look at me...and say "Where did she get that Joy..." I MUST have it !......Work on your Wardrobe. Love never goes out of style.

Miss More Roses

Check out the Facebook page for this awesome group: Black Women Who Want More

 en than they go to church or to the gym. UT OH...Miss More Roses is in trouble now. LOL.

The focus is on External Beauty while the inner woman is tore up from the floor up.

Your ATTITUDE is what needs a PERM, not your hair ! A PERMANENT change ! It needs to be straightened from the ROOT. We spend all of this time and money on clothes and shoes and stuff and ugliness comes out every time we open our mouth. Shoe game tight, but your steps are not ordered. You leave out of your house everyday looking good on the outside, while bitterness and frustration fester on the inside. Ready to pounce on anybody that looks at you wrong, talks to you wrong. Ugly. When things don' go your way....you cant slip into the comfort of Flexibility. Rigid and uptight...as if somebody squeezed you into a girdle that is five sizes two small...you LOOK the part, but you FEEL miserable.

Be beautiful. Spritz on some JOY in the morning. Slide your feet into the gospel of PEACE and walk in your blessings. Negativity BLOCKS Blessings !! You will NOT get to your destiny because your hair and your nails look good ! You will get there because you treat people right. The person that God SENT to bless you...you cussed them out and cut them off. Ugly.

As you go through this day, look in the mirror and ask yourself, is my Spirit on right ? Is my heart straight....towards others and do people look at me...and say "Where did she get that Joy..." I MUST have it !......Work on your Wardrobe. Love never goes out of style.

Miss More Roses

YUM!!! Weight Watcher: Chocolate Delight

Total time: 35 min PT2100.0S    Prep time: 15 min Serves 18 1 cup flour 12 cup margarine (light) 1 cup chopped pecans 8 ozs fat free cream cheese 1 cup powdered sugar 16 ozs cool whip (free) 312 ozs sugar (free instant chocolate pudding mix) 312 ozs sugar (free instant vanilla pudding mix) 3 cups 1% low-fat milk

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Mix flour, margarine and 1/2 cup chopped pecans until crumbly. Pat firmly into 9x13 baking dish. Bake 20 minutes at 350 degrees. Cool completely. Soften cream cheese, mix with 1 cup powdered sugar and 8 ounces cool whip free. Spread over crust. Mix chocolate pudding, vanilla pudding and milk. Spread over cream cheese mixture. Spread remaining cool whip over pudding and sprinkle with remaining pecans. Refrigerate at least 4 hours or overnight. Nutritional Content Amount Per Serving Calories 267 Calories from Fat 120 % Daily Value * Total Fat 13 g 20% Saturated Fat 5 g 23% Trans Fat 933 mg 0% Cholesterol 4 mg 1% Sodium 166 mg 7% Total Carbohydrate 33 g 11% Dietary Fiber 814 mg 3% Sugars 27 g Protein 5 g Vitamin A 2% Vitamin C 0 mg 0% Calcium 119 mg 12% Iron 1 mg 3% Potassium 155 mg 1% * Percent Daily Values are based on a 2,000 calorie diet. Your Daily Values may be higher or lower depending on your calorie needs.

Switched Off

I love that he loves me
I love the way that he loves me
I love the feel of his lips
I love his hands on my hips
But when I said it out loud
He said it’s not true
He said that he likes me
But he’ll never say “I love you”
So from here on out,
Note to self,
Look at the cards that you are dealt.
If you give all of yourself to someone who doesn’t care
You end up alone and you learn that life is not fair
So love is a fabrication, something that makes no sense
How can I love so hard and always be on the wrong side of the fence
Days come and go and you understand what’s real,
No need to love, and there’s no need to feel.
So I am placing my heart on “off”!

-DMB Original

If We All Work Together

I love conscience people. No I am not talking about those who are walking around and breathing. I am talking about those who are conscience and willing to do something to make the world a better place. You can be awake but not aware. You can be alive but not living. You can exist but not benefit from life.

I have worked in the Social Work field for thirteen years. If you ask me what my professional goals are my answer would be to be an effective social worker. I believe in people’s ability to change if they have the want and are offered the right tools. Last year I was faced with a decision and though it was one I do not regret, I miss social work. I was burnt out with a system that if utilized properly could help the families it is meant to help but I was working within a system that was headed by people who had no use for people who did not meet their standards. Yes this is the reality within many of the helping professions.

Everyone is called to do something in this world. We all have our place in this world. My love is helping people. Today I was party to a conversation that reminded me that there are still great people in the world. I now work with the Juvenile Court which governs the Department of Juvenile Justice and the Department of Family & Children Services. You see children and parents are the worst points in their lives and you want to help. There are some you can help and there are others that cannot be helped but that is after making the effort.

One of the guys at DJJ is willing to take his own time and create a Scared Straight program for the boys and girls in the community. The new culture of preteens and teenager seem to believe that they have the right to disrespect their parents, disrespect others and do as they want; and with no consequences. In the end they wind up in system and in front of a judge. This is what this young man is trying to stop. He is not asking for money, he is just asking for help; for the tools needed to get through to a generation that is lost and is evading those who want to help them due to lack of trust and devalue of life.

So what do you do? Is there a solution? Yes there is BUT it has to a collective effort. This world has to care about someone and something other than themselves. There has to be some concern given to those who have not and not at the point that they are in front of a judge. We have people out there who want to help but the funding has been cut and/or the powers that be are not interested.  So when the forgotten cry out for help and no one is listening; what do you expect? They turn to things that are illegal, dangerous, and life threatening.

So the solution is: Funding for programs, prevention and intervention. Trained and caring professionals. Court and law enforcement collaboration.

Great things can happen if we work together!!!